Dating Tips for Workaholics
We live in a fast-paced world. Advancing technology is aimed at helping
busy people accomplish more in a quicker amount of time. When
companies lay off employees they expect existing employees to pick up
the additional workload. As a result many people find themselves
becoming workaholics, a condition that is prominent in Japan and
growing in the United States.
Clinical studies have shown that people who
are workaholics have less time to interact with others and as a result,
their social lives suffer. Workaholics tend to date less, do fewer
team projects, and rarely attend social events. So how in the world are
they supposed to find love?
This article explores some key dating tips
for workaholics and some suggestions for becoming a bit more social and
a tad less frantic.
It may come as a surprise, but studies have
found that people who are workaholics tend to get less accomplished
than those who aren’t. The reason, studies found, is that workaholics
tend to have more anxiety, stress and get less sleep. That leads to
health issues like frequent headaches, back pain, and higher
susceptibility to colds and flus. As a result, while workaholics were
found to operate quickly, they weren’t as efficient. They lacked what
has been termed as “peak performance” in which a person operates at a
highly efficient state allowing more to be done in a shorter period of
While most workaholics fall into the above
category, there is a different type of workaholic – the “healthy”
workaholic. A healthy workaholic is someone who works hard and long
because they absolutely love the work they do. They not only love to
work hard, but they also love to delegate work, not feeling the need to
“control” everything. They feel good with the long hours they work
and get emotional benefits from their accomplishments. As long as a
“healthy” workaholic can keep their dating life in balance, the rewards
can be great.
Workaholic Dating Tips
The emergence of online dating for finding
dates is one of the best things ever to happen for shy people and
workaholics. With a limited time investment, you will be able to
communicate with some people that may be a good match for you. The
following tips (online and offline) can help you find that date and
progress beyond a first meeting.
Tip #1: Be honest in your profile. You
want someone to date you for who you are and if you create a false
persona online then you’ll never find that perfect match. Include in
your profile that you are passionate about work and state the type of
person you are looking for (i.e. “someone else who is passionate about
Tip #2: Respond promptly.
If you are as passionate about finding the love of your life as you are
about work then you can quickly create a win-win situation.
Unfortunately a lot of workaholics are known as “social
procrastinators” and that is one of the reasons they are labeled
“undateable”. Make sure you don’t fall into this trap by giving proper
attention and promptness to messages you receive and send. Use your
time wisely to learn more about your potential date. Now’s not the time
to talk about your passion for work.
Tip #3: Do not keep your date waiting on
the first date (or any date beyond that). Set your smart phone
scheduler to make sure you are ready and at the place you are meeting
at least 10 minutes early. You can be a workaholic and still be on
time. You don’t have to be like the guy in the Never Kiss a Frog video.
Tip #4: Do not talk about work on your first date. When
a person is passionate about something, they tend to spend too much
time talking about it in the presence of others and that can be a
turnoff for your date. Instead, invest your date time into asking
questions and getting to know what your date is passionate about.
Tip #5: Turn off your cell phone on your date. Getting
a call or text message in the middle of a date is extremely annoying
to your date. Learn that some things are, indeed, more important than
work and the date you are on is one of them.
Tip #6: Schedule “Date Nights”. Once
you enter into a relationship, some of the “passion” you had for
getting to know the other person may start to dwindle and you may find
yourself doing more work and less socializing with your partner. By
scheduling date nights you help avoid falling into a rut that can
destroy your relationship. Most of all, learn to put on your “listening
ears” when your partner shares his/her feelings about the
relationship. The rewards for doing so are vast.
There is an alternative to the above tips and
that is to become less of a workaholic and more like one of those
“peak performance” employees/bosses that achieve a large amount of work
in a small amount of time. You may find the extra sleep, relaxation,
and social time comes with many benefits, including a very happy